If anyone was unsure about the status of their relationship, it was made clear last night: Eric and Tritia are getting married..soon. They were brought back through time, through a building that had meant so much to their personal growth and their relationship. Though they had been talking about marriage for a long time already, the actual proposal still had to happen to make their engagement and commitment to one another “official.” But formalities are just that, formalities. We all knew it was going to happen, and now that it has, we can praise God even more.
I wasn’t there to witness it. I doubt Eric would have wanted me (or anyone else) to be there for their special moment. But based on my imagination, and seeing the rooftop afterwards (the place where Eric proposed), and facebook pictures, I think I’ve established a pretty accurate reenactment in my mind:
I can imagine the suspicion creeping into Tritia’s mind when Eric showed up at her house all dressed up because “he felt like it,” and their post-dinner adventure somehow ending up at 424 Veteran to pick up Starcraft from Brian Chiu. The confusion in the elevator must have been noticeable—Eric gave no excuse for why they were heading to the roof instead of back down to the lobby. Then the moment: when those elevator doors opened and revealed a beautiful, candle-lit walkway lined with rose pedals. It was at this point that Tritia knew for sure; and I imagine the walk down that path, hand-in-hand, was absolutely breathtaking. The world was frozen for that moment, that instant when both of them realized that their commitment to each other, bound by their love for Christ, was permanent. The weather had just a little kick in it, but not enough to distract them from the moment. Once they reached the end of the path, Eric, heart pounding and nervous, reaches into his pocket to retrieve the ring. Awkwardly, he decides which knee to put down first (the right one) and makes the move, possibly pulling a muscle at the same time (because we all know that cold weather and contracted, out-of-shape leg muscles don’t mix). Like a true man, he doesn’t show his pain and moves to the question. He had rehearsed it millions of times before, in the bathroom, in front of his mirror…with Jesse. It was easy. Looking down, he opens the red box that held the ring that his family had passed down from generation to generation. It’s perfect. Then he looks up and sees his future wife, the woman he’ll spend the rest of his life with; she was the one who had been there for him when he needed someone, the one who continually pointed him to Christ, the one who had revealed so many of his own flaws that he might be sanctified. She’s perfect. I can imagine that picture sticking in Eric’s mind forever: when he looked up and saw Tritia as his fiancee, his most beautiful gift from God. After that moment, the rest was easy. He asks a question that he already knew the answer to and they embrace. An awkward exchange of questions ensue, capped off by friends and family walking out to greet them, to celebrate with them. The view, impeccable. The LA skyline awaits them when they look out, family and friends beside them, smiles and laughter all around.
Ok, so maybe it didn’t happen exactly that way, but it’s pretty darn close. Knowing Eric and Tritia throughout the years, it was an absolute blessing to see the joy on their faces. The proposal was more than appropriate. It was the culmination of a college relationship, one with its fair share of struggles, and two hearts that desired to see a God-centered relationship played out. It was an unlikely love, drawn up by the perfect Creator. For me, it was inspiring to see a couple not only stick to their commitment, but reaffirm it over and over again through the years. It was a reminder of the purpose that God calls his children into Christ-centered relationships. Friends and family celebrate with them, attesting to the blessing that their relationship has been on the lives of others.They are an example of kindness, humility, and service to one another. Looking at them, it must be love. Love for each other, but more importantly, a mutual love for Christ that overflows into their relationship. They understand that it is their love for God that brings them closer, that gives them the motivation to serve one another. So when all is said and done, we can praise God for their relationship.
Eric and Tritia, if you’re reading this—thank you. You have been such a blessing to me and my relationship with Tina. Thank you for always spending the time to talk us through difficult times. Thank you for your prayers and all the good times. Eric, thank you for being a prime example of a Godly man. You have shown me what it takes to trust in the Lord and how to be a gentle leader in a relationship. Tritia, thank you for the jokes and for discipling Tina. You never fail to bring light and optimism to any situation. And your face..WOW. That thing contorts and stretches in ways I’ve never seen a face stretch before. Anyways, Tina and I will definitely be praying for you two. We know that we always have a couple to look up to. Thank you for pointing us to Christ. Know that we love you guys and that we are so happy for you two!
– Brian and Tina