Just so you know I’m not making this stuff up about friendships, here are some resources that are better articulated and more eloquent. Hopefully these address questions beyond the scope of my series on friendship.
The Burden of Perverse Assumptions
Tim Challies covers a topic that I wish I could address in this blog series, namely the pressure that homosexual awareness puts on male friendships. “Gone is the innocence that would allow us to see a man love another man without assuming that their relationship involved sex or at least the desire for sex. Men and boys, including Christian men and boys, are suffering the fallout. ‘The sexual revolution has also nearly killed male friendship as devoted to anything beyond drinking and watching sports. …The prominence of male homosexuality changes the language for teenage boys. It is absurd and cruel to say that the boy can ignore it.'” This is a worthwhile read.
When You Don’t Have a Better Half: Encouraging Biblical Roles as a Single Woman
By Carolyn McCulley: “As a college-age feminist, I was taught that men were the problem. The perils of patriarchy were the reason for all the conflict and unresolved desires between men and women. Many of the students in the women’s studies department of my university effectively solved this problem by circumventing men in every possible way, the final step being to embrace lesbianism.”
Is it wrong for married people to have friends of the opposite sex?
Here’s an audio interview with Pastor John Piper regarding the question of friendships for married people.
On the Importance of Gospel-Centered Friendships
Justin Taylor has a helpful commentary on the centrality of Christian friendships.
“Those who lack friends to open themselves unto are cannibals of their own hearts….This communicating of a man’s self to his friends works two contrary effects; for it redoubles joys and cuts griefs in half.”
Francis Bacon, “Of Friendship,” 1625